The last piece of the puzzle

You could say that I've done a lot of research on childfree women. In addition to the articles and books I read on the subject, I joined various groups on social media. There's a spectrum of attitudes women cultivate towards kids, that they often iterate when amongst themselves. The polar extremes are 'I love kids and am close with a few, but when it comes to personally rearing them, I've decided to opt out' to 'I hate kids and their loud, messy failure to be well-behaved adults'. The latter category sometimes shamed mothers, particularly mothers who had more than two kids. 

It was fairly easy to decide I was happy childfree. The hard work I had to do was treat mothers with the same respect I reserve for my tribe (of childfree women). Seeing women who chose differently than me as equal to me, and worthy of sympathy, compassion and non-judgement. My reasoning is like this: if I'm deeply content with myself, then I can be deeply content with another person who isn't harming anybody, and is acting in her personal best interests. 

I've removed the animosity factor. We are all working towards the same hopes and dreams: living a good life. Let mothers enjoy their life path, since that is what they wanted. People don't have to be a carbon copy of me. 

Speaking of animosity, I'm finding myself opting out of the outrage parade where US politics is involved. A slightly different issue, but it's tiring to hurl insults at the so-called enemy. We're all in the global community together, and I don't want to hate anybody. Socially sanctioned hatred is overrated. Building trust across the global community, reminding us that we have common interests at heart, inspiring us to gravitate towards peace and co-operation? That's hard. In fact, I don't remember the last time I heard the word co-operation in The Guardian or BBC or any of the media I consume. It took me a while to locate it in my inner word-scape. 

Maybe I've mellowed in my old age. I do turn 37 in a few months. Whatever the inspiration, I feel more wholesome.